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By Dr Rahim Said
The news about Neil Sedaka felt less like the passing of a singer and more like the closing of a very private chapter of my own life.
Because for me, Sedaka was never just a voice on vinyl, a name on a concert poster, or a relic of the 1960s pop era. He was, quite literally, the soundtrack to my love story.
I first discovered him as a schoolboy — awkward, hopeful, and permanently short of pocket money. In those days, romance existed mostly in imagination, scribbled in exercise books and hummed softly while cycling home from school.
Sedaka’s songs were perfect companions for a teenager rehearsing feelings he had never experienced.
One song in particular became my secret rehearsal script: You Mean Everything to Me.
I must have practised those opening lines a hundred times, not knowing when — or if — they would ever come in handy.
“You’re the answer to my lonely prayer. You’re an angel from above…”
It felt dramatic then, almost impossibly poetic. Certainly, far too grand for a shy schoolboy who could barely say hello to girls without sweating.
And yet life, as it sometimes does, eventually provided the perfect cue.
When I was courting the woman who would become my wife, we were driving one evening — young, hopeful, and very certain that the world ahead was vast and forgiving. Without warning, and with a courage that surprised even myself, I sang those lines to her.
Not perfectly. Not in tune. But with all the sincerity a young man could muster.
She laughed first — thankfully in delight rather than embarrassment — and in that moment Sedaka unknowingly became part of our shared history.
Years later, when we were newly-married, I brought my bride to watch him perform live. It was at the Shangri-La in George Town, Penang — one of those elegant evenings where nostalgia hung as thick as the perfume in the ballroom.
I remember the moment vividly even now.
During the concert, Sedaka stepped down from the stage, moving among the audience with that effortless charm that had once conquered teenage hearts worldwide. He approached my wife, handed her a rose, and smiled as though he had known her forever.
For a second, I thought history itself had leaned down to bless our marriage. She still remembers the warmth of that moment.
I remember something else: the quiet satisfaction of knowing that the songs of my youth had not been mere fantasies after all. They had travelled with me into real life.
Forty years passed in what now feels like a single breath.
Just last week, we returned from Bali after celebrating our 40th wedding anniversary — two older travellers now, moving slower, laughing more gently, but still occasionally recalling the reckless certainty of youth.
And then came the news.
Suddenly, Sedaka’s voice seemed to echo differently — no longer the bright promise of young love, but the tender reminder of time’s relentless passing.
The lines that once sounded romantic now carry a deeper, almost fragile resonance:
*“If you should ever, ever go away
There would be lonely tears to cry
The sun above would never shine again
There would be …teardrops in the sky.”
When I first learned those words as a teenager, they felt like beautiful exaggerations — the sort of emotional poetry only pop songs could afford.
After all, at 16, nothing truly permanent exists. Love is theoretical, loss unimaginable, and time stretches endlessly ahead.
But somewhere between that schoolboy rehearsing lyrics in his bedroom and the old man now humming them under his breath, those lines quietly turned from fantasy into truth.
Because that is what time does. It does not merely age us; it deepens the meaning of the things we once took lightly.
Over 40 years of marriage, my wife and I have had our share of ordinary quarrels, financial worries, health scares, and the thousand small negotiations that make up a life together.
Love, I discovered, is not a constant crescendo like a pop chorus. It is more often a steady, background melody — sometimes barely audible, but always there.
And now and then, a song from the past rises above the noise of daily living to remind us how it all began.
For us, that song was Sedaka’s.
It was there in the nervous excitement of our courtship, when I sang those lines on a drive with more hope than skill.
It was there in Penang decades later when he handed my wife a rose, turning a concert into a personal memory we would retell for years.
And it was there again last week in Bali, when we marked 40 years together — two ageing romantics still travelling side by side, still occasionally teasing each other about that long-ago serenade.
And now, with Sedaka gone, it feels as if a gentle voice from our youth has finally faded into silence.
Of course, life moves on. The world now belongs to newer songs, louder rhythms, and faster loves. Young people no longer need to practise love lyrics in secret; they broadcast their feelings instantly to the world.
But there was something quietly magical about that earlier era — when love arrived slowly, like a melody carried on the wind, and a single song could accompany a lifetime.
In truth, we never really own the music of our youth. We merely borrow it while we are young enough to believe it was written just for us.
And then one day, when the singer is gone, we realise that the songs have outlived him — and will probably outlive us too.
That is both the sadness and the comfort. Because although Neil Sedaka is no longer here, his voice still lives in the small private moments of people like me — in old memories, in half-forgotten lyrics, and in the quiet companionship of couples who once built their love stories to the sound of his piano.
So, there is nothing grand left to say now.
Only this: Goodbye, Neil.
Thank you for the songs that taught a shy schoolboy how to speak his heart… and for staying with him, softly and faithfully, all the way into old age.